Let us assume that a man marries a woman while knowing that she cannot reproduce, or vice versa.
Aquinas argues that laws should change to reflect customs although custom cannot change natural or divine law.
So controversial was Pakistani phuddi sex in his day that the king of France had to call out his troops to surround the convent where Aquinas lived to protect him from Christians aroused by fundamentalist clergy.
No, it didn't.
Therefore, to counter your argument, Aquinas may be re-read as such:
Wherefore sins against the specific nature are more grievous.
The other's genitals, too, are the object of our attention:
Yet kisses, touches, and the like can be done sometimes without sin.
Therefore it would seem not to be a species of lust.
One drunken dock worker who goes home on a Friday night and goes to bed with his wife.