How to stop overthinking in a relationship. Nadia Bokody. 02.10.201802.10.2018 The ability to communicate your thoughts and emotions is crucial for a healthy relationship, and you should never avoid it. But my brain was already 2, steps ahead. I am lovable. LO Lily Oast Aug 17, Stop finding faults and focus on the positive traits of your partner. Jealousy is actually the result of our own insecurities. You stop seeing them as rivals or threats, and instead, you feel safer knowing they could help protect your relationship. Thanks for sharing.