From my experience when I was in highschool and even some time ago at work.
I dreaded him coming home from work.
On the other hand, we all like getting attention.
I have recently split up with my ex.
I felt awful.
I have never seen an article telling men how THEY can improve, even though a lot of men seriously need to learn.
You should not feel weird about reaching out to him first after your date.
As a person yearning and reaching to be a wondering writer such as yourself, I agree and understand that having the ability to go anywhere, anytime and do anything is important.